Why are they called private parts ?: Why are the vagina, penis, buttocks even breast called private. This was the first question asked by my daughter? The simplest way to explain by not confusing and scaring the kid are the underwear rules.
- The underwear rule: The part that is covered by his or her underwear is called private.
- Secondly, explain that these parts always remain covered. You need to open your underwear only when you urinate or do potty. Or changing clothes or during bathing.
- Thirdly no one should touch their genitals. Teach them to clean their genitals as early as possible. The common excuse used by the perpetrators in daycare or preschools in India are they were cleaning the bottoms or changing clothes.
- Teach your kids not to undress in front of everyone when going to the toilet. Children are ignorant of these and often tend to run around without wearing the underwear. Explain it to them that to dress and undress are to be done by parents and caregivers and who usually do it for them. Even relatives or big cousins or someone who show keen interest should be questioned and observed.
There are certain things I have clearly stated to her as a bad touch and should promptly report to parents or grandparents are as follows:
No one should touch inside your underpants. You should immediately say “No take out your hand”. Shout out loud.
No one should ask youto touch their private parts or unzip their pants or underwears.
No one should kiss your genitals.
These are the binding underwear rules that should be reiterated to your kids often.
The next question in the line is how to deal with known perpetrators as they most of the time known offenders
This makes it especially difficult for the child to understand that how can known people be abusers.
So what we can do? We can groom our kids to report and disclose everything to parents.
- You have to especially vigilant if some want to be alone with your child very frequently.
- Your relatives, schools personnel or acquaintances known to your kid has asked them to keep secrets raise the flag.
- The person is unnecessarily trying to become very close to your kid and bribes often with gifts.
In comparison to the previous category this one is rather easy to make the child understand:
- Not to accept any gifts from strangers without the parent's consent.
- Never to go with any strangers without parents or grandparents permission.
- Create a safety network of persons whom your child can trust and open up. The trusted group should include at least any one of the parents if not both. Another person can live outside the house.
- Make a habit of listening to your children blabbering. As parents, you can sniff if something is not right.
- Show videos and buy a book to educate the child of sexual abuse. Visual effects often make a child easy to understand complicated things.