- Be patient with your child
- Find out what activities your child has interest.
- Try with a one-to-one interaction.
- Prepare your child in advance for any social gathering.
- Do not push your kids to social groups.
Sometimes in a birthday party where there are a lot of kids around a shy child, he or she would become anxious. This has been the case with my daughter. She is typically not shy but hovers around the border of shyness. So I sit down and have a chat with others and leave her to go around. I know the unfamiliar surroundings makes her uneasy. Usually, after roaming approximately 5 to 10 minutes, she warms up to the situation and tries to make friends with others. After 20 minutes or half an hour she is again a happy child playing around. It is obvious some kids need time to warm up.
- Stop comparing your kids to sibling or friends.
- Compliment your child in making new friends
- Never introduce your child as shy.
- Empathize in private for being shy.
- Parents are best suited to be role models.
The Indian concept of shyness is often gendered biased. It is considered okay to be shy as a girl child.They are termed as reserved. On the other hand, a boy should be outspoken and social. So shy girl is not encouraged to be an open social kid. Similarly, if a boy is shy, he is reprimanded and ridiculed. As parents, we should be proactive and dismiss these stigmas and raise our child with sensibility and respect for their individuality.